Why Can't You Read My Mind?: Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship

Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it s actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication In Why Can t You Read My Mind , psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals for the first time the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually evMost people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it s actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication In Why Can t You Read My Mind , psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals for the first time the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually every relationship, and shows couples how these distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts can poison their love and end their union With warmth and wisdom, Bernstein offers a simple yet powerful approach for breaking the toxic thinking cycle and helps readers establish new and positive thinking habits for solving their problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life Packed with practical advice and valuable insights, Why Can t You Read My Mind makes it possible for couples to remain in or return to loving relationships permanently, and points the way toward finding a truer kind of love with one another for the first time Perfect for couples wanting to maintain their loving relationship as well as for those working to restore their love, this book provides the missing link, enabling couples to beat the relationship odds and sustain a long term relationship.
Why Can t You Read My Mind Overcoming the Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end but it s actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust erodes intimacy

  • Title: Why Can't You Read My Mind?: Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship
  • Author: Jeffrey Bernstein Susan Magee
  • ISBN: 9781569244753
  • Page: 154
  • Format: Paperback
  • 1 thought on “Why Can't You Read My Mind?: Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship”

    1. This is the best relationship self help book I've ever seen. I buy it for most of my girls when they move in with a boy, just because I know how frustraiting it can be. I'm living with my 3rd boy friend, and it's finally easier. I can come home walk into a messy place and NOT take it personal. It has nothing to do with me. I didn't know that until I read this book.This book teaches you how to communicate verbally those things you expect him/her to be able to 'just know'. No one can tell what's w [...]

    2. People have misunderstood one another since the beginning of time–and, if the self-help genre is any indication, they continue to do so. Bernstein, a Philadelphia-based psychologist, describes “toxic” thought patterns that can damage even the healthiest relationships (readers will be reminded of those found in Clinton McLemore’s Toxic Relationships and How to Change Them: Health and Holiness in Everyday Life), He presents the MAP plan–Mindfulness, Alternatives, Practice–as the antido [...]

    3. My goal: find a good book about communication in relationships. There are endless books about communication and endless books about relationship, and most of them are written for an audience whose standard reading fare is magazine articles. I chose Why Can’t You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship by Jeffrey Bernstein and Susan Magee because it was both relatively well rated and available at my library. My rating: 2/5Why Can’t Yo [...]

    4. This book uses the principles of cognitive therapy to help you turn off your "toxic thinking". The author proposes that if you thought your way out of love than you can think your way back in. Like most of the relationship books I have read the solution starts with you. You cannot change your partner, only yourself. You have to accept your responsibility for the problems and you are the only one who can fix them. You can't expect your partner to make you happy by being able to "read your mind". [...]

    5. Another self-helpy type book that I began a long time ago and just ended now. It's main worthwhile point in my opinion is the concept of "Toxic Thoughts"."Your thoughts can get you into trouble, however, when the negative ones stop being occasional and become more frequent, habit-like, unrealistic, intense, and distorted. When that happens, you're experiencing toxic thinking.""By controlling our toxic thinking, we can control our feelings."As I am discovering by the number of "self-helpy" type b [...]

    6. Offered some helpful tips; well suited to anyone who finds themselves being occasionally irrationally negative in relationships. I'm glad I read it. We'll see if I can put Mr. Bernstein's methods into practice

    7. This book allowed me to see myself in a relationship and understand the thoughts I were having were sabotaging my own happiness. Regardless of the relationship this book will help anyone looking for answers from their partner.when their partner isn't talking.

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